{"id":6967,"date":"2018-04-27T13:03:00","date_gmt":"2018-04-27T05:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/caitlincady.com\/the-power-of-presence\/"},"modified":"2022-05-13T12:15:03","modified_gmt":"2022-05-13T04:15:03","slug":"the-power-of-presence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/caitlincady.com\/the-power-of-presence\/","title":{"rendered":"The Power Of Presence"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"p1\">Here&#8217;s a quick question you can use to check in with yourself:&nbsp;<em>Where is&nbsp;my allegiance in this moment? To&nbsp;the past,&nbsp;the future, or&nbsp;the present?&nbsp;<\/em>Your answer to this question speaks volumes about how you&#8217;re making decisions in life, how much suffering you&#8217;re subjecting yourself to, and whether or not you&#8217;re embodying your full power. Here&#8217;s what I mean&#8230;.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p2\">\n<span class=\"s1\"><\/span>TETHERED TO THE PAST<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">If we are tethered to the past, we live in the momentum of our prior choices, often perpetuating our unhappiness with unhelpful habits. We flagellate ourselves for choices we\u2019ve now labeled as mistakes. Regret is stuck on repeat and fear becomes our guiding force in navigating future choices. We keep ourselves \u201csafe\u201d by cycling through self-doubt.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">FIXATED ON THE FUTURE<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The flip side of that coin is a fixation on the future. We project happiness onto the movie screen of Some-Day, perpetually holding out for your tomorrows, when things will be perfect. When the conditions for your happiness will be <i>just right<\/i>. The Someday Syndrome. The phrases, \u201cI\u2019ll be happy when\u2026\u201d or \u201cIf I can just\u2026\u201d might sound familiar.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p2\">\n<span class=\"s1\"><\/span>DOUBLE WHAMMY: FEAR OF FAILURE<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">If we\u2019re tethered to the past, we\u2019re stuck in regret. And if we\u2019re fixated on the future, we\u2019re leaning into expectation. Or there\u2019s the double whammy of past and future fixation called Fear Of Failure. Which puts the brakes on creativity, inspiration, self-evolution and satisfaction faster than you can say \u201cperfectionist.\u201d So we\u2019re either beating ourselves up or setting our sights on the future, or both. And in the meantime, we\u2019re miserable or paralysed or unfulfilled or just-getting-by or all of the above. <\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">THE PATH OF PRESENCE<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">The good news is there\u2019s another path. The present. Directing your allegiance and your attention to the present puts an end to the tyranny of regret and expectation. It cuts unhappiness off at the knees and liberates you to make your way forward with unburdened bliss.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Why is aligning yourself with the present such a potent practice? Because your power (all of it) rests in the present moment. You can\u2019t change what happened last week. And you can\u2019t mortgage your happiness on some projected future outcome. All you can do is impact your present moment. As the poet Rumi so beautifully put it, we \u201ccome out of the circle of time and into the circle of hope.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">When you prioritize presence, you free yourself from the debt of regret, you unchain yourself from expectancy, and you empower yourself to make <i>this moment<\/i> matter. And when <i>this moment<\/i> matters above all else, your vibe is instantly upgraded. You make choices in line with your highest good. You relish your time with loved ones. You laugh more. You eat better. You pay attention. You listen well. You feel more satisfied. You love more thoroughly. You work more diligently and efficiently. You\u2019re more inspired and creative. You keep perspective easily. You nourish yourself intuitively. You take responsibility for your life. You move through challenges and frustrations with grace instead of grit. And all of those small things add up to one big thing: a brighter future. Minus the anxiety of expectation. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><\/span><span class=\"s1\">That\u2019s the power, the elegant simplicity, of NOW.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>\n<span class=\"s1\"><\/span>MAKE PRESENCE AN EFFORTLESS HABIT<\/h2>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Best way to make presence an effortless habit? Start with a daily meditation practice. In essence, meditation is a practice in presence and gives us the opportunity to retrain our minds. Think of your meditation practice as a training ground for the rest of your life. It gives us an occasion to notice how often we leave presence and it gives us the tools and the fortitude to return our attention to presence as often as necessary (which can be like, ALLTHETIME). Meditation makes us mindful of our attention. And mindfulness empowers us to be more present, on and off the meditation cushion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Where is your allegiance? To your past, your future, or the present? Your answer speaks volumes about the quality of your life. 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