{"id":6952,"date":"2018-03-16T13:44:00","date_gmt":"2018-03-16T05:44:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/caitlincady.com\/what-are-you-withholding-because-youre-afraid-its-not-good-enough\/"},"modified":"2022-05-13T12:15:04","modified_gmt":"2022-05-13T04:15:04","slug":"what-are-you-withholding-because-youre-afraid-its-not-good-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/caitlincady.com\/what-are-you-withholding-because-youre-afraid-its-not-good-enough\/","title":{"rendered":"What are you withholding because you’re afraid it’s not good enough?"},"content":{"rendered":"

What are you withholding because you\u2019re afraid it\u2019s not good enough? What are you refusing to give? What are you refusing to start? What are you refusing to take action on? What are you holding back until it\u2019s more\u2026done. More ready. More finished. More certain. More sure. More qualified. More likeable. More loveable. More figured-out. More timely. More professional. More beautiful. More perfect.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing. At a certain point, withholding your gifts, your love, your joy, your voice, your opinion, your knowledge, your intuitions, your art, your work, your affection, your vulnerability, your realness, your perspective, your truth\u2026withholding any of this eventually becomes selfish. <\/p>\n

Who are you to say what\u2019s good enough? You\u2019re not an expert in what other people need or want. So what the fuck are you so afraid of? Anticipating that it\u2019s not going to land well? Or that it could be better? At a certain point, no amount of revisions can protect you from the risk that what you have to share won\u2019t be received well by everyone. But that\u2019s okay. You are not for everyone. But you ARE for a lot of people. So don\u2019t hold out on them. They need you. <\/p>\n

Yes. People need what you have. And by waiting for whatever you have to be refined down to some pristine polished piece of perfection, you\u2019re letting your ego and your fear of not-enough outweigh the gift of sharing.<\/p>\n

There is a cost to your silence. As my cousin Cady Macon<\/a> brilliantly put it, \u201cthe true cost of stifling our voices is unknown. Lost potential can\u2019t be quantified.\u201d BOOM.<\/p>\n

When you deem yourself to be the judge of what\u2019s good enough to print, publish or push play on, more than likely that manuscript will gather dust on your desk, the canvas will go unpainted, the idea will be voiceless, that person will never know how they lit you up. UNFULFILLED UNQUANTIFIABLE POTENTIAL. For you. For everyone. There is an on-flow butterfly effect of your failure to launch. Who will never know how deeply they mattered? Who will never be inspired by your voice or your action? Who misses out? We all do.<\/p>\n

So stop secreting it away. Stop hiding. Stop stagnating. Stop sitting on it. Stop containing. Remember that done is better than perfect. Remember that perfect never comes. Mount up. Give it away. Give it up. Let it out. Shout it out. Share it. Sing it. Spread it. Send it. Paint it. Write it. Publish it. Launch it. GIVE IT. <\/p>\n

Go’on now. Get busy. You got thangs to share, say and make. We’re waiting for you…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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